The health department of the city of The Hague asked me to help them address intergenerational domestic violence.
I just teamed up with Roeland Otten (and started an agency called Anarchic Approach) and together we concluded that learning to deal with emotions is a good place to start. A big part of the problem is the repetition of the coping meganismes. If parents have a certain way of dealing with things, chances are a child will use the same ‘method’ later in life. So we decided to make a little tool to help identify certain feelings and provide some room to investigate coping posibilities.
Roeland suggested to use this paper folding game as a base. A perfect format; it has a certain element of surprise and/or excitement. Ideal to play in small groups, among friends, people you feel safe with.
We chose four basic emotions: anger, sadness, fear, and happiness. Every emotion we depicted twice: once asking if they ever felt like that and how they handled that emotion or that conflict. And once asking if they ever made someone else feel like that and how that came about.